So tonight, i finally let out whatever’s going on to a somewhat random person- he’s more like an acquaintance. Basically, 2 of my frustrations in life now. Relationship and work. Ugh like what are you trying to prove, for the former.We also need some time to cool off.But it was a great catch up with everyonee. Almost. Didn’t really get to talk to some people cos they were on the other side but it’s okay. Haha Till next thursday! Commencement day 🤣xx
Whether it’s because i’m at this point of my life or it’s just this friend of mine and we’re walking through a mine field, but conversations just aren’t fun anymore. Why do people lose this element as we grow older? There are things to worry about and times to get serious but doesn’t mean we have to be that most of the time. Life is about living, planning sometimes but living the most. So instead of losing our humor in this crazy world, all the more should we hold onto it because that’s what life is about – finding the joy and positivity in the most terrible situations. Ok, okay, so you tell me you’re going through the toughest time of life and you’re being all solemn and shit. Will being like that get you anywhere 🤣 Of course to be able to live, there are things you have to do but getting obsessed over it isn’t doing anything and bringing it up all the time in relationships is not that healthy either. Sigh. Pray hope this is just a phase. xxAnyway, why should i tell people my plans or things i thought about if everything is tentative????? What’s the point? I feel like everyone is asking for a definite answer i can’t even give… like i have to know what i want to do where i want to go how am i gonna solve this gimme a break.
ok i’m having an episode here. whatif i can’t get a job nobody wants me i’m just useless is it expectations why nobody reply me yet someone GOD PLS ANSWER ME in my dreams or whatever show me something lah i’m really just dying right here i just want to learn and grow and do stuff and make money so i can survive be independent be stable so my parents won’t worry and then later on when i’ve gained some experiences go back to studying please lahhh i dont even know where to look alr. help.
So you believe we come from apes? Instead of Adam and Eve?
Then why would we be this hairy? Why would scientists say our DNA are almost the same? Why is there the Theory of Evolution?
I don’t know when I started believing in science and evolution and started to fiction-ize the Bible. I’m now 23 and I think it has probably been around or a little more than 10 years since I told myself that I don’t believe in the Bible, that it’s just a sensible, morally right, logical book and while humans couldn’t have evolved from apes, they couldn’t have appeared out of nowhere- but that train of thought abruptly ends with no continuation because what I want to believe and what I have in front of me does not tally and so I avoid the confrontation, the messy untangling to understand better, to know and search for the truth. Maybe it’s because a part of me believes in a higher power/being yet a part of me is so firmly rooted in the present in the fact that this book could not have been passed down, not been altered or remain unbiased. How do we know that it really is the first religion in the world? That He made Adam and Eve? I was so stuck because I didn’t want to blindly follow the Bible. I didn’t want to hear it out and then be told that all other religions are just a copy and/or a remixed version of this religion. And so, for the longest time, I’ve been in this rut, I would say- neither moving forward nor backward.
And then, something started moving within me. I started attending Sunday service with mum. Although it isn’t every Sunday, it’s something I’m starting to look forward to it now? I went with the intention of gaining knowledge because I know that they teach good life lessons plus it’s good to remain open-minded and just listen. I’m still unsure of whether it’s indeed his doing or it was purely coincidental – I know believers will say that he knows everything about you: past, present or future; your thoughts, your intentions, your sins. But, at this point in my life, there is just something or someone I want to reach out to and talk to when I can’t turn to anyone. And I’ve slowly realized that the books I’ve read, the ones that taught me things such as: listen to your parents, be kind in thought, words and actions, your body is a sacred temple treat it well and more are the same things in the Bible. And so, I am now at the point where I ask myself, why are these books the same? Why am I choosing to believe this book but entirely dismissing the other when they’re teaching the same values? Am I really open to hearing out what the other has to say or am I just lying to myself?
So, I am 23 and just like anyone else at 23, I’m figuring out Life, my path and I’m figuring out this higher power/being thing. I’m trying to find a way to come to terms with it, I’m trying to understand and writing this, I’m trying to be accountable. I’m moving forward, I believe, at my own pace. I wasn’t ready to hear anything at 13 or 16, 17, or 19 and I halfheartedly agreed at 20 and 21. 22 was the year of my greatest indulgence and when I started this year, I wanted to seriously treat my body right. Now, it feels like that might take on a deeper meaning as my friend said, “i’m in contemplation stage” and so, as with anything else, we’ll see.
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I’m back, back from 4 days of offline presence. It’s quite strange and disarming at the same time. Strange since having internet is a huge part of my life – being millennial and all that – so especially since we’re in the city, it’s been particularly difficult to not have everything at your fingertips. And I realize that I am a very inquisitive person – it’s a good thing right? Haha. It’s also disarming because I feel like I’ve been somewhat ‘forgotten’ and I haven’t been keeping up with ongoings. For instance, didn’t know about the suicide bombings in Surabaya, Indonesia till I watched CNA last evening. By that time, it’s practically old news.
Yet, having no internet and data for the past few days have taught me that such disconnection is good for my overall wellbeing. I feel calmer, more relaxed, energized and refreshed to start a day. There’s something special about having a day all to yourself, being able to do what you set out to do, uncluttered with spam/junk. It’s something I thought I gave myself before but the past few days, with being wholly present with the people around me and being aware of how much I actually space out, lets me truly enjoy these moments even if they may be as dull as cleaning the house or watching Hannibal or having a meal with my brother at the foodcourt beneath the block. With that said, I did reconnect a few times whenever I had WIFI like when I’m at JCube waiting for a movie to start and so forth though I never stayed on too long. Just enough to receive notifications and then switch off. Just enough to check movie timings. Just enough.
Now that I’m at my Grandma’s place and online, the notifications keep coming in even before I read the news. For the first half an hour I was here, I refused to switch my Wifi on and carry on doing what I wanted to do aka watch my Gma make okinawan ginger milk tea, scrub and bluetac the polariods onto the wall for my Gma. Wanted to savour it before being online again. My brother, on the other hand, is already on CNA reading/watching the latest news.
Without further ado, let me embrace the millennial within me.
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Got the keys to our rental (for the next year) a few hours ago which means we’ll be shifting some stuff over. Currently, the living room is packed with boxes and the curtains and some decor has been stripped, leaving behind an emptier shell. I’ll miss this place but then again, a part of me is happy to be moving… even tho I vehemently, outwardly oppose this. Maybe it’s from the habit moving houses so many times that this feels like a much anticipated shift.
Also bought my grad trip tickets today(: i’m stoked for it!! Flights and accoms for bkk and krabi are settled, left with chiangmai- the last leg of the trip. I hope 2k is enough.
Another note, we both know. And that’s the saddest part. Sigh.
Goodnight, meeting HKU peeps tmr for brunch!
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So why let me hope when there’s not enough to hope for? Just crush it. Direct and clean.
